Black Girls be Articulating their Pain

Today I tweeted, “Someone I love is turning into someone I dont like and its breaking my heart.”  I didnt say anything else about it, just left it at that. But there is so much more to it.

There is a man that I love. Would lay my life down for without a second thought.  I’ve watched him grow and turn into this man that has so much promise and I would do anything to help him prosper.  And he is breaking my heart. And he doesnt even know it.  Because he hates himself and if he hates himself than it must mean that he hates me because he and me are one. Because he’s my brother.

I dont know when it happened or what caused it.  All I know is that somewhere along the way someone told him or he convinced himself that Black is not beautiful and the closer to whiteness the better.  He’s dating a lovely white girl and Im glad he’s found someone to love and that loves him in return is awesome but that doesnt replace his love for his own Black self.

I think what hurts me the most is all the unsaid things.  He only compliments white women on their looks, their hair.  He only calls little White children cute.  If we go somewhere and there are a lot of white people there, he immediately assumes it is nice and acts appropriately.  We waited for him to put the tree topper on the tree and he even complained that there wasnt a White angel!  So if White is right and beautiful doesnt that make this lil Black girl ugly and wrong?

I dont know what to do about it but it concerns me because even if he has children with a woman that is clear as glass, his children will still be Black and they will be treated as such.  I dont want him to propel his hate unto others.  Nor will I allow him to make me feel less than, no matter who he is.

Maybe its a stage and he will grow out of it. I really hope he matures and sees the error of his ways and finds that love that he so desperately needs. Until then I have to find a way to marry my disgust and my devotion, my love and my loathing.

 

Black Girls be Tweeting about Relationships

I dont usually do this but I wanted to share a Twitter conversation that I had yesterday. I hope you enjoy and especially if you are a fella I would love to hear your thoughts.

  1. fromraewithlove
    So not too long ago, this brother I knew told me I wasn’t the type of woman that men felt like they needed rescue. So of course, I’m like ??
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:19:37
  2. fromraewithlove
    (mind you he works in law enforcement) and proceeded to tell me because I have my ish together, I’m not about to be on the street, don’t
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:20:24
  3. fromraewithlove
    have any kids,and appear to be handling everything on my own – men will never feel like they need to rescue me.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:21:12
  4. fromraewithlove
    In other words – there was no “visible struggle” as far as he could see. Of course this goes back to my post on the perils of strength.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:21:48
  5. fromraewithlove
    So before I hung up on him, I, of course being me, gave him a few choice words to allow him to marinate on….
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:22:51
  6. fromraewithlove
    Most women out here are handling their business becuse they HAVE to. Not like there’s a choice.There is, but the streets are cold and shit.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:23:30
  7. fromraewithlove
    So for a man to tell me I’m not the saving type, well then who is? I mean who doesn’t need to be loved, assisted, etc these days?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:24:28
  8. fromraewithlove
    And better yet, if a woman is of the saving type is that the only qualification needed?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:25:31
  9. fromraewithlove
    Because looka here, if I list what is really happening in this here world of mine? You’re either going to run or you’ll jump in and help.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:26:01
  10. fromraewithlove
    That statement has stayed with me. More so because I see men around me “rescuing” women every day. And of course … me being me…
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:27:02
  11. fromraewithlove
    So – let me ask the brothers on my TL a question – what moves you to rescue/save/bail a woman out of a situation?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:29:18
  12. DarrkGable
    @fromraewithlove overdone fantasies and unchecked chivalry. It gotta have limits. Dudes out here playing Capt. Save ’em on assumptions.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:51:04
  13. DarrkGable
    @fromraewithlove maybe, but moreso personal experiences. I was THE Capt. Save ’em. It took feeling like I was being used learn being the
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:11:15
  14. DarrkGable
    @fromraewithlove knight in shining armor is not necessarily always good. A man can’t ascribe the traits of being a damsel in distress to
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:12:56
  15. DarrkGable
    @fromraewithlove every woman. Doing so assumes that they are worthy of the benefits of being saved. Each man has to figure out which woman
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:14:03
  16. DarrkGable
    @fromraewithlove is worth being saved. All should be treated with respect, yes. Each man has that one he is supposed to protect, save, etc.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:15:47
  17. MadameMonarch
    @fromraewithlove’s tweets remind me of an ep. of Will & Grace where someone told Her she couldn’t get a man b/c she was too well cared for
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:31:57
  18. MadameMonarch
    I consider myself to be a well cared for woman. I don’t carry my burdens on my sleeve. I was raised with a sense of respectable discretion
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:33:34
  19. MadameMonarch
    As a society what are telling men that makes them believe that if they aren’t fixing something they aren’t needed?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:36:12
  20. DarrkGable
    @MadameMonarch *whispers* thank extreme feminism *ducks shots* it’s gonna sound crass, but the “independent woman” created that dynamic.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:43:31
  21. MadameMonarch
    Fellas, lets be clear. I have a father. He is very capable & did his job.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:40:24
  22. MadameMonarch
    If I enter into a relationship with you I am not seeking a daddy replacement. Know your role. Play your part.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:42:05
  23. MadameMonarch
    Because believe you & me. He has done things for me you will never do. And you will do things for me he never could.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:42:48
  24. MadameMonarch
    @DarrkGable What can be done to create an environment where all parties understand that the “feminist” needs love & companionship as well?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:44:55
  25. MadameMonarch
    I consider myself a womanist. I want equal pay. I want my gender-specific health care needs to be met. I want respect.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:46:17
  26. MadameMonarch
    I want these things and many more but I also want to be held & loved & challenged by a romantic partner.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:47:07
  27. MadameMonarch
    I do not consider these needs to be dichotomous. I don’t understand why we paint them as such.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:47:59
  28. DarrkGable
    @MadameMonarch first figure out if they understand it. Then the “we’re here to help each other” convo. We need women, women need us. Period.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:47:52
  29. MadameMonarch
    Fellas, do y’all understand that when we as women fight for ourselves we are not fighting against you?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 10:48:55
  30. MadameMonarch
    @DarrkGable Do I walk up to a man & say I need you but not in the way you think. So stop trying to save me & just love me. Just be there.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:19:44
  31. fromraewithlove
    @DarrkGable @MadameMonarch I have the same issue. But the others? Well, look bruh I need your love and support. Do right by me. You know?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:46:13
  32. fromraewithlove
    So check this – I am a woman, I am pro-women and pro women’s rights. But ummm, I still need a man. I am not of the school who is anti-man.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:48:44
  33. fromraewithlove
    I am the woman who still believes in our men, loves hard and can defer and submit to the right one. Sue me.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:50:43
  34. fromraewithlove
    And frankly, as the current head of my household, the job is open to be filled for the right man. I’m willing to assist and help all day.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:51:37
  35. fromraewithlove
    Of course things have changed in today’s time, but I still believe there is a way for things to be done for the household.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:53:32
  36. fromraewithlove
    And if you’re the right one? You are the head of the household, not me. Just know you have a help meet strong enough to actually help. Amen.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:54:08
  37. fromraewithlove
    I am assertive and can def be a piece of work. So I want a man that can look at me, tell me to have a seat and pipe down – and I trust him.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:55:31
  38. fromraewithlove
    So then I shut it, have a seat and pipe down – because well, I trust him – his actions, judgment, decisions.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:56:18
  39. fromraewithlove
    Submission is not negative. If he’s not worthy of submitting to? Don’t marry him. You’ll be sorry. But if he is? Then well, you’re safe.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:57:23
  40. fromraewithlove
    Not to mention, if you really study marriage, then we as women would gain more respect for what men are responsible for (Christians prespec)
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:58:07
  41. fromraewithlove
    I want a man stronger than me. My strength is not going to scare off the right one. And his strength can temper my need to be in control.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 11:59:06
  42. fromraewithlove
    So all this stuff about not submitting? If you read abt it I guarantee it’ll change the way you date, look at men, etc.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:00:15
  43. fromraewithlove
    So the throught of having to submit to certain men? Hell no. Never.But there are some? That a woman can trust to give this gift.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:01:24
  44. fromraewithlove
    BTW, all of this is applied in terms of marriage. I may be a sinner but I know right from wrong. And as women we need to stop
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:02:16
  45. fromraewithlove
    submitting to men in month one or two and providing every marital benefit in the book. Trust me. I am guilty of this.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:02:58
  46. fromraewithlove
    You need to have a heart that can be submissive and not combative. Something about you needs to show him you can submit.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:03:50
  47. fromraewithlove
    But as for full submission before he’s ever worked for it, proven he deserves it, given you a ring, had some counseling? Nawl.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:04:29
  48. fromraewithlove
    Submission is a gift. Once again, not for every man we date or fall for (being real here). It’s for the right man.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:05:12
  49. fromraewithlove
    And I am sure I will be reamed for this whole submission thing. Fine. I’ll take that. But I believe in order.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:06:51
  50. fromraewithlove
    I may act like a heathen from time to time (DJM) but ummm, there really is an order to things whether we like it or not.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:07:38
  51. fromraewithlove
    So ladies, read about it. Men, read about it. Both sides need to understand what it really means before getting all murried and stuff.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:08:29
  52. fromraewithlove
    Man – if you have a woman, a wife, submitting to you, then there is a major responsibility on your shoulders. I respect that.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:09:10
  53. fromraewithlove
    In that submission, men have a HUGE accountability factor. So ladies, if you have a good man (husband)? Listen to him.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:11:06
  54. fromraewithlove
    And ladies, if you can’t see yourself being able to follow this man, submit to him and trust his judgment? You’re in the wrong place.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:11:38
  55. fromraewithlove
    I have often had to eval men in my life like this – like am I really going to let this man decide my life for me? Do I trust him?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:12:11
  56. fromraewithlove
    If that’s a no – you need to run and have a seat somewhere safe. I’ve only met a few men in my time I would trust with my life.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:12:51
  57. fromraewithlove
    And Lord knows I have chosen some bad ones to submit to and trust – too soon, too early, out of order and when they didn’t deserve it.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:13:45
  58. fromraewithlove
    Now I’m just real with it. How would you expect a man to take care of you when he’s done nothing for you but waste your time?
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:14:17
  59. fromraewithlove
    BTW, him buying meals and little trinkets doesn’t indicate you should submit. Money is not an indicator of a would-be good husband.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:15:30
  60. fromraewithlove
    Money is an indicator that he has money. (LOL). The question is, is he generous, patient and kind? Not, girl – he has a _____ and a _____
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:16:31
  61. fromraewithlove
    All that ___ and a ____ can be lost overnight. Figure out/watch/discern and listen for who you’re really dealing with less the bling
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:17:25
  62. fromraewithlove
    Wrapping up this little rant, I say all of this b/c I have made the mistake of giving that gift way too quickly. It’s still on the table.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:18:15
  63. fromraewithlove
    But it has to be given to the right one. And ladies, if you aren’t aware of it, start reading.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:19:21
  64. fromraewithlove
    That is if you’re Christian (hot, lukewarm or cold) and have a desire to be married, I rec Bunny Wilson’s “Liberated Through Submission”
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:20:10
  65. fromraewithlove
    I read that book some time ago (need to read it again) and it blew me away. I def need to re-read that thing. All her books are good.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:20:56
  66. fromraewithlove
    So yes, I am a sinner heathen and that has everything to do with this here path I’m on. I may be lukewarm some days, but I love the Lord.
    Thu, Oct 04 2012 12:22:17

Now that you’ve read what do you think? Have you experienced this? Are you a Capt’n Save Em? Are you a damsel in distress or too well taken care of to be rescued?

Oh and dont forget to show them so love on their blogs at fromraewithlove.com and GLiP Post.

Black Girls be Politicking

On my way back from my first puppet show rehearsal (yeah, more about that later) I saw a sign.  It said, “Watch for motorcycles. Check your blind spots. Share the road.”  Now, I dont know what it was about that sign that made me think about politics but it did. Check your blind spots.  Share the road.  They seem like simple little innocuous sayings but they are not.  It seems like “checking our blind spots” and “sharing the road” have become revolutionary ideas.

Being blind is not seen as an asset.  It is categorized as a disability, a weakness.  “Blinded by love” is to lose all of one’s common sense while under Cupid’s spell and no one wants to be “robbed blind.”  But when we are driving down the highway in our vehicles of various sizes, singing our favorite songs we dont always own up to our lack of vision. “He was in my blindspot!” (Why is the driver always a man until proven otherwise?) He was in my blind spot. Like how dare he be in a place that inconveniences me. The nerve of him.

I would say its all the political talk that usually follows conventions that incited this train of thought, but its not.  Recent events have introduced me to my blind spots.  Two weeks ago, I had the honor to meet Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Jose Antonio Vargas (@joseiswriting for all the tweeps) and he made me check my blind spot that is the 12 million undocumented Americans in this country.  Yeah, let that sink in. 12 million.  People who work, eat, sleep, pray, live, love and are just as American as anyone else.  Oh, and they drive too.  We share the road with them every day.  We dont ask to see their IDs before we let them pass us.  We treat them with the same respect, or disrespect, that we would give any other driver. We have to; for everyone’s collective safety.
The elections are fast approaching. And though I have hope I also have concerns. Because certain political parties and players have made it clear that not only are they disregarding their blind spots but they have no interest in even admitting that there are blind spots that need to be checked.  And I am very afraid to see what kind of country we will have if they get behind the wheel.   Win or lose, black or white, red or blue, we will all have to share the road.  There are only so many people we can run over, cars we can leave unattended and wrecks we can let disrupt the flow of traffic before none of us will be able to get anywhere.  We are the potentially homicidal drunk driver on the highway to progression.

The solution is simple.  Check your blind spots.  Whether or not you see them, they are there. The undocumented, the homeless, the single parents, the unemployed, the homosexual, the impoverished, the mal-educated and the malnourished. Whether or not you see them, they are still there. And they have just as much nerve and just as much right to be here as you do. Share the road, so we can all get where we want to go.

Black Girls Be Talking to Other Black Girls About Sex

First of all let me say that this is a scary blog post to release to the world because it is so very honest.  This is literally a text conversation that I had with previously featured Awkward Duck.  She is my home girl and we have very open conversations but this is one that I think deserves a platform for discussion.  *This is slightly explicit and there is a cuss word or two, just so you know. It has only been edited slightly for typos and comprehension but not for content and all italics is me giving you some insight. In theatre, that is called an aside.*

Welcome the Real World of the Blue Black Girl!

Me (The Blue Black Girl): I’m having a problem rectifying my desire for celibacy with my belief in sex positivity. And I need to be strong in this before I really get into a situation with a man that makes me feel things. Cuz I was already feeling something with Fireman Sam(Fireman Sam is a guy I met online that I have hung out with twice and I like him and could possibly really like him. And he’s a fireman and his name is Sam. Fireman Sam). And both times as soon as I felt it I bolted as fast as I could. What do you suggest?

Her (Awkward Duck):Well, for starters- I love that you call him Fireman Sam. Lol- ok now that that’s out the way, why is it that you want to practice celibacy? What do you want to accomplish. I think it’s important to note that you can be sexually positive and affirming without having sex. It simply means you support the autonomy over ones sexual wants/desires/acts. Celibacy isn’t the antithesis of this. Celibacy can be fruitful and healing- as long as your reasons for doing it is your own- and not from someone else’s values. The conflict you feel around guys is a natural physical response to wanting to have sex! But I’d suggest you revisit what you want and are your actions and decisions reflecting that. And that’s it not….this is what someone else said would get me what I want. If celibacy is what you want- you should express this at some point with your male friends

BBG-Mmm that’s a lot to discern. I believe that I want to be celibate for selfish & pure reasons & I’m having problems unpacking that. I am celibate because I, (my government name), want to have a chance to get to know a man & decide on him before my loins do. I think I have lost trust in my body because the people my body craves haven’t necessarily been good for my heart. I need to heal that rift between my soul & my sexuality. And then there is religious guilt. When I’m sexing someone I have feelings for it feels good in the moment & while we’re in love but when it doesn’t work I feel like God is punishing me for my lack of control & purity. And then there is the “My pussy’s too damn good mentality.” And not wanting to waste a perfectly good interaction with someone who doesn’t deserve it.

AD-Mmmm that’s good. But it seems like the issues flow from 1- religious morals and 2- your inability to separate the sex from expectations

BBG– Indeed. Because I don’t know how to half ass sex. So when I do it I go balls to the wall, all emotions everything. Just everything laid out bare. And I am disappointed if I’m not matched in my efforts.

AD-What is it that you deserve? What is it you want? (both rhetorical) sex is also healing, and reciprocal and there’s no better feeling than knowing you have control over letting yourself feel good. The muddled perceptions we have on sex from different parts of ourselves make it hard. So we create alotta stress on something so pure. And hey, it happens. Maybe it is good that you push back until you clear it with self. I just don’t want you sexually oppressing yourself or giving yourself guilt trips over something naturally and divinely made. I went back and forth- making myself stop using vibrators. Suppressing my wants. And there’s good in practicing strong will- I was driving myself crazy until I released it all. If I’m celibate it’s to allow my womb to heal-or to refocus- but it’s not a source of guilt for me anymore

BBG– I understand. And you’re completely right. I just don’t trust myself. My body is impulsive & assertive but in my mind I want to take time & let the man take the lead, at least at first. Because I feel that a man will take almost anything that’s offered on a silver platter. But I want to give myself to a man that truly wants me & not just my body. I just dont trust myself to make the right decision when it comes to men & relationships & sex. So it’s easier & admittedly lazier to put it on God or the man. But that’s not fair.

AD– Well that’s honest and real. I just wanna also note that you’re great- and that any man worth all your good energy isn’t going to give that up b/c he had sex with you too soon. But if it’s a fear of you getting hurt by the wrong one getting the goods-then will u be less hurt if he fucked up and didn’t get the goods? Meaning- is the source of pain that he had sex and was a jackass or that he’s just a jackass- where is it really stemming from?

BBG– I think because my sex & emotions are so intertwined I get upset that I got so emotionally invested that I let him into my sexual realm. So if he’s an asshole it’s too late I’ve already let him in.

AD– Got ya- so sex is inextricably tied to emotions for you- and often catapult those feelings into over drive. Have u given up on vibrators?

BBG-Yup. I’m naturally an over-lover & a fierce nurturer so I can’t control how I feel. So I am trying to refrain from doing things that exacerbate that preexisting condition. And I kind of have because the power & allure of sex isnt about the orgasm. It’s about the connection. The hands, the mouth, the skin to skin, eye to eye thing.

AD-From one nurturer to another- I understand that. Get that energy into some other vents some kind of way

BBG-That’s why I’ve been doing a lot of blogging & working & volunteering & trying not to focus on it lol

AD– Lmao. You sound like u in a heat

BBG-I am! ALL THE DAMN TIME!

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Black Girls Dont Be Wanting to Be Kim K

Today Kanye tweeted about his new song “Perfect Bitch,” which is about his girlfriend, Kim Kardashian and then he posted that picture with the caption “MERCY!” *Sigh*

Now being that Kim K and Kanye have become media whores I wouldn’t put it past them that she thought it was cute that he wrote a song about her and used the crassness of the title as promotion. I mean Im blogging about it aint I? But I wonder if there’s a part of Kimberly that wishes that the man that “loves” her wouldnt use her for publicity.

Kimberly is bad, in that racially ambiguous, long hair, light skin kind of way.  She has all the best parts of a Black woman, socially acceptable and long hair of a white woman and the money of an old white man.  What isn’t to love? Wait… I dont know Kimberly personally and she may be a very nice person but she seems so… kept.  Like Nora in Ibsen’s A Doll’s House, she always looks fragile and managed.  Like she has never laughed or cried if it wasnt for public fodder and a fat check.  She is no longer a person, she is a brand and every step she takes affects the livelihoods of hundreds of people. (Yes hundreds, if you think about the people that work for her shows, her management companies, her family, her Shoedazzle company and whatever other enterprises she has. Hundreds.)

I, on the other hand, will never be bad.  And I am ok with that.  I am short, thick and brown with natural hair and my skin goes from caramel complected to rich cocoa with red undertones depending on the season.  I throw my head back and make ungodly noises when I laugh and I wear my emotions on my sleeve.  I do what makes me happy without apology.  And when I am in a relationship I hardly ever feel like an accessory.

Kimberly is a trophy.  There have been so many song lyrics and pop culture references made about her that she is no longer herself.  She is a symbol, a walking allegory of status and wealth and racial and sexual politics.  So that is why that photo is so telling; a faceless woman with long hair, ample behind and her back exposed and his very expensive and very exclusive car.  His possessions, limited edition commodities that he has.  Look at me yall, dont you want what I got?

And the answer is, I dont.

Black Girls Be Attending Cultural Stuff: DanceAfrica 2012

Just got home from Dance Africa with my bestest friend. (No really we have been friends for 20 years in September and Im not even 25 yet) And because my lovely mother washed my phone in the washing machine the other day I have been phoneless or I would have taken photos to share with yall.

SIDE NOTE:

Being phoneless in a society where we are addicted to the illusion of connectivity and communication shows you just how much of an illusion it really is. Because no matter how many followers I have or “friends” on Twitter this weekend I was alone.  I only spoke to my mother, father, 1 of my brothers, my grandmother and three friends.  Being phoneless shows you who really cares about your life and who just wants to know about your life.  There is a difference.  I have enjoyed the peace and quiet without that ever gnawing feeling that if I dont check my phone I may miss something. Life is happening all around me. I dont want to miss that.

Ok Im back.  So we went to Dance Africa at the Brooklyn Academy of Music otherwise known as BAM.  Its their 150th year of operation and they have this really great marketing campaign “BAM and then it hits you” Here is one of my favorites:

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Im a sucker for dance photos.  But yeah we went and there was a street bazaar around BAM with people selling all of the normal ethnic wares; jewelry, t-shirts, art, body lotions and oils and food. Oh the food!!!  I ended up buying a conch shell ring, a wrap skirt, 3 pairs of earrings and a picture.  Then we went to the dance performance which was in BAM’s big beautiful theatre and it was absolutely amazing.  I love to watch young people do African dance.  Some of those girls were as young as 7 or 8 and all I could think about is in about 15 years that will be my son or daughter.  My ancestors survived the Middle Passage, slavery, Reconstruction, Jim Crow, The 60’s AND Reagan but along the way our native identity was lost.  But when the drumming starts there is something inside me that wakes up like recognizing an old friend. Hey, I know you! So its awesome to watch and be a part of.  Furthermore (comma) they was gettin it!!! Do you hear me!!?!! I mean feet, legs, arms, hair, heads just movin.  It took everything in me to stay in my seat! Powerful.  But the thing that I love most about these types of events is seeing my people and feeling a great sense of community. No fighting, no strife… just good looking men and women out enjoying the weather and each other and life.  Just enjoying life.

I also enjoyed a beef patty and a small fruit salad. Did you think I was gonna pass all that good smelling food and not get nothing?!? Pssht!! You must not know me very well.